If you agree with 5 or more of the following statements, the chances are you have this schema.
- 1I tend to cling to people if I think they are pulling away from me.
- 2I get really anxious if I don't know where my partner is or what they are doing.
- 3I tend to become quite obsessive in relationships.
- 4I am always looking for signs that my partner's feelings are changing.
- 5I get so anxious in relationships I tend to sabotage them early on or avoid them all together.
- 6I often find myself in relationships with people who can't be there for me in a committed way.
- 7The adults in my childhood were unpredictable - nice one minute, then abusive, cold or distant the next.
- 8I tend to keep my feelings and needs to myself - I worry that if I show my partner who I really am, they will leave me.
- 9I feel like it's only a matter of time before relationships end - people usually leave me.
- 10I find it difficult to focus on my own life when I am in a relationship.